While the narcissist and the empath lie at opposite ends of the same spectrum, the two often have a very magnetic attraction for reasons largely unknown. Many people have speculated as to why this attraction exists on such an intense level, but it might be simpler than we think. It very well may be a very strong case of ‘opposites attract.’
Just as with most things in life, balance is often key. Empaths’ deep loving and caring nature often has them struggling when it comes to putting up healthy boundaries to protect themselves from victimhood, co-dependency, martyrdom, and self-sacrifice. On the other hand, narcissists like to use a guise of charisma and charm to seem attractive, even though they are typically self-centered, apathetic, and somewhat cruel.
Here are the four main types of narcissists we empaths sometimes draw into our lives unknowingly:
The Amorous Narcissist
This type of narcissist is one who is largely concerned with their sexual conquests. In their world, they maintain their superiority complex by having a high number of sexual partners. As with most narcissists, they’re enticing, and pull people in with a sincere, generous demeanor at first, but quickly become cruel and dismissive after they’ve taken what they need from a person.
They are the world’s heartbreakers.
The Compensatory Narcissist
The compensatory narcissist has an incessant need to make up for traumatic events that have happened in their past. These types like to maintain an image of grand success and prosperity, and love partnering with vulnerable people who will buy into their grand image.
They’re incredibly sensitive to what others have to say about them, and often use emotional abuse and manipulation to ensure things go their way.
The Elitist Narcissist
The elitist narcissists fully believe that they are better than pretty much everyone they come across, whether it’s because of their talents and achievements, or simply their ascribed characteristics. Their inflated egos lend to a natural sense of entitlement, feeling that they deserve to be treated better than others.
The Malignant Narcissist
Malignant narcissists are often the most dangerous narcissists a person can come across or let into their life. Why? Because they do not differentiate between morality and immorality, or right versus wrong. And when they do things that are ‘wrong,’ they feel absolutely nothing.
They often share characteristics of psychopaths, deriving great joy from being able to outwit people they’re trying to take advantage of. These folks are usually lurking in prisons, gangs, and rehab programs.